Deception is one of the most effective tactics you can use in self defense, and using it well will allow you to attack where your opponent is unprepared, all but guaranteeing your success.
Below is a quote from The Art of War, an outstanding book of strategy and tactics written in China by Sun Tzu more than 2,500 years ago:
All warfare is based on deception. Hence, when able to attack, we must seem unable; when using our forces, we must seem inactive; when we are near, we must make the enemy believe we are far away; when far away, we must make him believe we are near. Hold out baits to entice the enemy. Feign disorder, and crush him. If he is secure at all points, be prepared for him. If he is in superior strength, evade him. If your opponent is of choleric temper, seek to irritate him. Pretend to be weak, that he may grow arrogant. If he is taking his ease, give him no rest. If his forces are united, separate them. Attack him where he is unprepared, appear where you are not expected.
In MMA or fighting sports, deception can be used on a variety of levels. You can “hold out baits” by leaving certain targets exposed, you can “seem unable” by faking a minor injury or stumble, you can “seem inactive” while actually waiting to ambush when your opponent attacks, you can fake high and hit low, and so on. But in fighting sports your opponent knows you are there to fight, and he likely knows a good bit about you, your skills, and your fighting style. In self defense on the other hand, particularly against an unknown assailant, there is no limit to the types of deception you can use.
Pretending to Be Weak
In a real self defense situation your opponent will have no idea if you will fight back. In fact, in many cases your opponent will probably assume you will not fight back, otherwise he would have chosen an easier victim. By “pretending to be weak”, acting as if you will not fight back, you can viciously attack your opponent when he does not expect it. Adopting a fighting posture may help to dissuade an attacker in some situations. If he believes you are more than he wants to deal with, it may work. But if you’re pretty certain that you’ll have to fight, doing so when your opponent does not expect it is far superior to giving him cues that tell him to prepare himself.
Most martial arts and fighting sports teach practitioners to adopt a fighting stance in preparation for fighting. And it’s somewhat natural to attempt to show your opponent that you’re prepared, to put on a show of toughness. But think about the difference between these two scenarios:
- A guy walks up to you and for some reason he tells you he’s going to fight you. You back up a bit, get into a fighting stance, and signal that you’re ready.
- A guy walks up to you and for some reason he tells you he’s going to fight you. From a non-threatening posture you tell him you don’t want any trouble. Just as he begins to react to your statement you quickly and unexpectedly nail him with the most efficient and effective technique you can use. Or, you spray him with pepper spray and move out of his way.
Which option do you think would be more likely to succeed?
(Keep in mind that this is only a hypothetical situation. I would never advocate fighting or physical self defense if there is anything you can do to avoid it.)
Technical Deception & Surprise
Around 1632 in Japan, a swordsman named Yahyu Menenori wrote a text he called The Life-Giving Sword. In it he wrote about deception:
The truth is hidden within, a ruse is placed without, and in the end one is drawn onto the Path of Truth. In this way, all deception becomes truth.
Every deception includes an element of surprise, when your opponent realizes that he has been tricked. Anything you can do to bring your opponent’s attention to one place in order to attack a place where he is unprepared is a successful use of deception. One great option is to throw something at your opponent’s face, any everyday object (coins, keys, a book, bag, etc.), and then nail him as he reacts to your move. Everyone will react in some way to having something thrown at their face. They’ll turn away, close their eyes, attempt to block it, catch it, or even just move their head out of the way. This will create the opportunity for you to attack while your opponent is unprepared, to kick him as hard as you can in the balls, for example.
In addition to faking or using techniques to bring your opponent’s attention where you want it, using unexpected techniques is a form of deception:
Groin Slap
In fighting sports there are not only rules and limitations on permissible techniques, but certain conventions in terms of what techniques are used and how. There are particular sets of techniques that are used in every system, from judo and Brazilian jiu jitsu to MMA. But in self defense there are no rules. There are no limitations as to what techniques or weapons you can use. However, there are general expectations that your attacker will likely have, and violating those expectations can be an incredibly effective tactic.
When the vast majority of people think about fighting, they think about the classic techniques used in MMA, a combination of what is basically boxing/kick boxing/Thai boxing and wrestling. I’ve trained in MMA gyms, and in my experience everything MMA fighters do is geared toward punching, kicking, and wrestling. They don’t practice otherwise, and they don’t expect otherwise.
Although techniques like eye strikes and groin slaps aren’t magical moves that will allow you to beat anyone, as you still need to understand and be able to manipulate distance, position, timing, etc., they are extremely effective, and equally important, they are unexpected by the vast majority of average people and fighters alike.
Eye Strike
The triangular footwork that you can use with eye strikes and groin slaps is unexpected by most people, and when combined with the unexpected targets and the use of deception, they are excellent for self defense.
Whenever you think about potential self defense scenarios, or even fighting/sparring scenarios, consider how you can use deception to your advantage. As Sun Tzu said, “All warfare is based on deception.” If you’re not using it, you are seriously handicapping yourself.
Very inerestin subject, i can tell when i was young once i went out and i was just looking at some girl when i felt beeing watch and observed and yes 2 min later i had some punches in my face ,i saw the guy waiting for my ,but i just went home had a very good night out i still reggret i didnt fight back those things happen greethigs .
always try and deescalate the fight. but if you have to fight then attack with intensity. Hit him while you are speaking. Hurt him quickly and badly and then get away quickly. This is not a game.
Great observations, quotes and information. I think one of the things that stood out to me as something I can easily remember, is that if someone makes the mistake to approach me to do me harm, then they’ve already been deceived by my appearance. I’m going to try go with that when I can, and let the first clear sign that I know what I’m doing be the sign of pain.
nice n very useful trick
thanx 4 this
Thanks guys!
I am truly amazed at how David continues to teach practical and useful self defense techniques. I bought his book a year ago and saw he was committed to avoiding all theory based crap taught by some schools today. I was so impressed, I wrote to David about a year ago and shared some stories from when I was a kid behind bars. Amazingly he wrote right back and secured me as long time follower. Long story short, I really messed up as a teenager and in exchange had to do some prison time. Now I didnt have it as bad as say a child molester or rapist, since my charges were seen as “cool” by other convicts. (armed robbery, etc, etc, i am still ashamed to this day) However, in the decade I spent there, I witnessed numerous fist fights, weapon attacks and of course three or four on one group attacks.( rat-packing its called). When I first started flipping through his book, it was the same type of fighting I used to witness on a weekly basis. Real fighting with no rules. I was amazed he was so intent on being practical and hadn’t fallen into the way of thinking as so many other teachers had. This article above is just another example of that. Many people would call it a “cheap shot”, blah, blah blah, but in reality its these little advantages that determine who is left standing in the end. Once again, touche David!
I’ve followed FSD for a while and am always pleased to read such practical and insightful posts. I teach primarily women & teens and I will definitely be sharing this one! It is so important for defense to recognize that every confrontation is won in the mind first & action is always faster than reaction. Thanks a bunch for this one!