Meeting in Istanbul Last Year

Meeting in Istanbul Last Year

My mom died one month ago due to a tragic accident.  She was only 63 and healthy, and her death has been a terrible shock for myself and my family.

I’m writing about this here for two reasons.  Least importantly, if you’ve emailed me in the last month I apologize for not answering.  You may have to email me again if you have a question you’d like answered.

More importantly, I want to use this opportunity to make a point my mom often made.  If there is anything you want to do or say, do it now.  Don’t wait.  Just two weeks before my mom died I was writing with her about enjoying life and she wrote:

It seems to be very common that when someone retires they either get sick, they die, or their spouse does the same.  It seems so unfair!!  You have to live every day as if it were your last.

Fortunately my parents did that more than anyone I know.  They lived an incredibly fulfilled life, of their own making, and that brings me a good bit of comfort now.  But so many people don’t do the things they want to do or say the things they want to say.  Many people plan to really live once they retire, and for a substantial number that doesn’t work out so well.

Find a way to enjoy your life to the fullest now, because you really don’t know how soon it will end.  You also don’t know how long your loved ones will be around, or in what condition.  Spend as much quality time as you can with them.  In the end, the time you spend with people you care about will be much more important than how much work you do.  The time you spend pursuing things you’re passionate about will be much more important than how much money you’ve made.

Life is incredibly fragile.  You and the people you care about can be here one moment and gone the next.  Life is short, and we’re all going to die.  Do everything you can to enjoy yourself today.

My mom lived an awesome life.  It was far too short for those of us still living.  But she literally went out having a great time with my dad.  There is no better way to die.